When it comes to figuring out your true value, there’s really no easy calculation. Well I did hear of one way. Apparently if you were to break the average person down into their most basic elements such as oxygen, hydrogen and carbon you’d have enough to make about $1.
But is anyone actually going to go around and say that their life is worth only $1. Of course not, your life is worth much more than that. But this does raise an important question: what is your true value and are you short changing yourself?
Understanding Your Value
There really is no easy way to figure out your true value. It’s not as if people come with price tags so you can understand your going rate at any moment. So the question can seem pretty subjective and hard to answer. This makes many people avoid it altogether.
I think avoiding the question would be a mistake. After all, having a greater understanding of your value helps make sure you’re not settling for something that you shouldn’t. Without a true sense of your value, you might end up living a life below your potential.
For example, a friend of mine started dating this girl several years ago. He’s a fun, stable and good looking guy with an excellent paying job and lifestyle. She is unemployed, rude and lazy. To put it bluntly, he is too good for her.
The problem comes from the fact that he is undervaluing himself. He’s had trouble with women in the past, but over the years he’s landed a high paying job and a really great lifestyle. It’s not that he doesn’t have value; it’s that he doesn’t understand it. And this misunderstanding of his value has led him to a bad dating situation.
Miscalculating Your Value
That’s the biggest problem with being unable to understand your true value. If you don’t know what you’re worth, you won’t end up in the best possible situations. You may be missing out on much better things for your life.
And this could affect so many different areas of your life. Short-changing your value can lead to worse dates, friends and jobs. Worse still, if you underestimate your value, you might not expect as much out of yourself. How far can you really take your life if you think you’re not worth all the effort?
Getting a proper estimate of your true value can ensure you don’t end up with something beneath your standards. Of course there is some danger in overestimating your value. That could mean a lot of frustration and anger as you strive and fail to reach your goals. But at least you’re pushing yourself which is a better position to be in than when you short change your value.
Here are three ways to better understand yourself and make sure you don’t underestimate your value.
1. Be honest with yourself
In order to make sure you’re not underestimating your value, you have to calculate just what your worth. Taking the time to self-reflect on just what you have to offer can really give you a better understanding of your value. When you’re doing your self-reflection, you want to focus on what important things you bring. You’ll also want to focus on the possibility that you’re selling yourself short.
2. Ask someone you trust
Sometimes getting a true sense of your value can be as simple as asking someone you trust. They’ll have an outside view of what’s going on in your life so they can give a more objective opinion on if you’re short-changing your value or not. Just make sure they are someone you can trust.
3. Carefully evaluate your position
If you want to know if something doesn’t fit your value, you should carefully evaluate it. That means taking a look at what’s needed to be in the position and if you’re meeting or exceeding the expectations.
For example, your job should have a set number of skills and qualifications needed to perform it. Are you just what’s needed for your position or do you have more than what’s required? What do people with a similar skill level as you have? If you have more qualifications than what the job requires, you might be short changing your value.
Ask For More From the World
Even though no one wants to live below their potential, many still do. And I’d say a big reason for that is because people don’t take the time to understand and calculate how valuable they really are. Unless you take the time and figure it out, you’ll never know.
As you progress through life, you’ll need to constantly figure out your true value. Hopefully as you gain skills, confidence and experience, you’re value will continue to rise. So figuring out your worth will probably take a lifetime. At least you can rest assured it’s more than $1.
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